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• Lyanette Talley • Episode 90

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What happens when life hits you with a whirlwind of personal and professional challenges? Join me, Lyanette Talley, in this heartfelt episode of Virago 24/7 as I break my long hiatus to share the overwhelming journey of the past few months. Amidst the chaos of transitioning out of a managerial role at work, I also faced the emotions of the loss of my stepmom, Karen, to cancer.

I have struggled with the decline of my grandmother's health.  Her struggle with diabetes, heart issues, and multiple strokes has led to a rapid decline in independence, ultimately relocating her to the Dominican Republic for better familial support. Despite the distance, I have been maintaining connection through video calls, which has been a source of comfort.

As we navigate these emotional terrains, I also reflect on my recent journey of personal growth and resilience. Shifting my fitness routines to include yoga and Pilates, I've found the courage to step out of my comfort zone and embrace new beginnings. Supported by my husband’s encouragement, I'm more determined than ever to pursue my podcasting goals, embrace criticism, and push forward with renewed energy. This episode serves as a gentle reminder to appreciate your own journey, acknowledge your growth, and move forward with grace and self-compassion. Don't forget to subscribe, rate us five stars, and connect with us on Instagram and Facebook at Virago247 to share your stories.

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Music by Deli Rowe: "Space to Move"
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Hi, I am your host, lenette Talley, and you are listening to Virago 24-7. Virago is Latin for female warrior and 24-7 is for all day, every day. Virago 24-7 is a weekly podcast that brings diverse women together to talk about life and our experiences in this world. We share our views on self-love, mental health, marriage, children, friendships and really anything that needs to be talked about. Here you will find everyday growth, everyday healing with Everyday Warriors. Well, hello everyone. I'm still alive. I'm still here. How's it going? It's been quite a while and just wanted to get on here and give you all an update on what's been going on the past few months. So hope all of you are doing well.

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I know I've had some lapses in not recording or not posting, and those times have always been when you know I'm busy or it's summertime and we're traveling and I just didn't have the time to sit. This is not the case. I've had plenty of time, but I've chosen to do other things with that time, and so I just, I think I just needed to disconnect for a little bit. And I'm just to disconnect for a little bit and I'm just. I think it's been what since March, april, since I've chatted with you all. But here I am and been trying to figure out where to start and I really don't go back and listen to my shows. So I have an idea of what I said last time, so hopefully I can continue with what I said last time and what was going on back then. But what has happened? A lot has transpired in the past few months and let's just get into it. Let's just get into it Work.

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I've realized that I think there's a lot of people out there that can put a lot of things in their basket and they could juggle many things their home, their home, their children, their husband, their job, their hobbies, their friendships like they can juggle all of it. To me that becomes very overwhelming and very exhausting and it takes a lot of energy like emotional energy out of me. I've realized. I've come to realize well, I've always known this about myself, but it's confirming and affirming that I take on and feel a lot of energy and it drains me.

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So, with working at the office and being a manager there and being all in, if I'm going to do something and I put my mind to it, I will be all in, which then takes away from me you know, recording or doing the things that I really like or hanging out with friends, because then I'm just like exhausted and what I want to do with my free time is come home, have a nice meal. I've been cooking and watching my TV and being alone, and I know that sounds really bad. My friend Adrian's always like you just disconnect and you just stay by yourself, and that's not healthy. I know it looks that way, but for me I need it for my sanity, and I'm not alone. I have a household of people. I have Philip that I can talk to and I do talk to him, and I do have friends that you know I'll vent to, so I don't isolate completely, even though it does look like that.

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So I've realized with working at the office, yeah, I could have come and still done the podcast, but you know what? I didn't because I'm tired and those and those women at that practice can wear you down and and and suck all the energy out of you. So that's what I've been doing and I'm officially not a manager anymore as of I think it's been the end of June, yeah, the end of June and or beginning of July, I don't know. It all blurs together but recently and so I'm no longer officially the manager, even though I was holding the title with the new manager. We were holding that same title at the same time and just trying to transition things and so now I have time to talk to you people, which is very, very exciting. And it was hard to let go, because I always want to have my husband's back and I know what he wants, I know how he needs things to be done, and letting go of that control and allowing others to learn what he likes and what he wants and doesn't like is hard, but he's a big boy and he can handle himself and he can teach them his ways. I just feel I just always feel very protective of him and I've been in protective mode. So the transition has not been seamless but, like I said, he is a big boy and he can handle himself. And, yeah, I'm still at the office, I'm still working part time like I was before. So Corinne just started school on Monday, this Monday of this past week, and yeah, so I get to, you know, hang out with her and make sure she gets to school and does her schoolwork, because she's doing still that homeschool program and yeah, and then I get to be here with you all. So that's that on that.

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There's a lot of drama that goes into that practice. We call it as the drill turns. If anybody wants to pick up a reality show about dentistry, it's quite interesting. I know it might sound very boring, but there's a lot of drama that goes on behind the scenes. And so, yeah, the other thing I know that I talked about Karen and how she was sick with cancer and she did pass away on July 21st, four days after her birthday, her 65th birthday and she really wanted to get to Hawaii where my youngest brother lives. He lives there with his wife and his daughter and his soon-to-be baby girl. There's another baby on the way. So we're really, really, really, really excited for them and for us, because I love my nieces and nephews and yeah, so she really wanted to get there.

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I don't know all the ins and outs. Anthony says that he wants to see me face-to-face and be able to tell me. You know everything that transpired towards the end. If you all didn't know, if you guys have not listened to every episode I have been estranged from Karen, so it was more of you know they would let me know what was going on. I try to be there to listen to them and to my siblings. And I did go visit her in March I believe, and I didn't go back. She ended up going to live with my sister the last few months and my sister took great care of her, but she really wanted to get to Hawaii and Anthony and Monica and, I believe, adam, they all made it happen. So Anthony came and they flew to Hawaii and she was able to be there for another week or so, a week and a half, and so, yeah, she passed.

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And it's, you know, it's weird when you're estranged from someone. And it's, you know, it's weird when you're estranged from someone, it's trying to figure out, like how you should feel, what you should feel. Do you have the permission to feel any certain kind of way when you've not had a lot of interaction with someone for a long time, and especially someone that was a big part of your life since, I mean, since maybe first grade, I don't know, all the years blurred together, but for sure, by the time I was in first grade that was my first memory of Karen, or maybe a little earlier, but very, very young. And it's brought, you know, it's brought up some feelings, some old feelings that I thought I had healed from and um it just yeah, I didn't think I was going to cry. I am always crying every time. Every time I'm always crying, I'm always like you know what, keep it together. Nobody wants to hear you cry. But may she rest in peace. There's no need to say anything else than that. Then rest in peace and, and yeah, pray for my siblings that they can grieve the way they need to grieve. And yeah, I don't know what else to say about that A chapter. It doesn't feel like a chapter's ended. It feels like a book is done and I can put that on the shelf and thank it for all the lessons and all the wisdom that it brought me.

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So, yeah, so next, my abuela. She has been, you know, she has diabetes and heart issues and things of that nature, but she goes to all her appointments and she takes her medication and she does what she needs to do to maintain her health and she had a mini stroke last year and it's not confirmed. I never talked to a doctor. Everything is going through my aunt, which is my late uncle's wife, his widow, and so she's the main person that lives in Miami with her new husband and her daughter, her stepdaughter, and so they live the closest to my grandmother.

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And so she fell early this year and they took her to the hospital. She seemed fine. They released her after a few days. Aunt Jocelyn took her to her house and things declined. I don't know exactly what happened, but she just wasn't doing well. She was kind of speaking like in gibberish and looked like she just was out of it. So I think she was having another stroke, from what it sounds like. But I'm not a professional. I never talked to any of the doctors.

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I did end up going down there because they put her back in the hospital. So I did go down there, but I never saw a doctor. It was all like nurses and stuff. And you know, at this point she's 86 years old. What is there to do? I just look at this is what we're dealing with, this is how she is right now, whether it was a stroke, whether it was whatever, like what do we do moving forward? And so when I went to the hospital she couldn't speak. Obviously she's on a lot of pain meds. Something was going on with her knee so they had to do surgery so she couldn't walk.

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And while I was there and while I was there she got somewhat well enough to transfer her to a rehab center to help her with her walking. So I'm so thankful and I'm so glad that I went. I'm so glad that I was there to ride in the ambulance with her, because she was very scared and, like I said, she can't really form sentences. At that time she couldn't really form any words except cuss words, to cuss anybody out that she wasn't happy with, which was primarily the nurses that would come in to clean her up and stuff. Those were very clear, very clear Spanish cuss words, but anything else she couldn't really express. It's like she wanted to say something but it's all coming out in gibberish. So I was very thankful that I was with her to transfer her. I would come, stay with her and you can tell that she's kind of like okay, you can go, but I'm like, no, I came here for you so I can sit. I brought my book, she would take a nap.

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So I believe, like a day or two after she moved to the rehab, I'm like, all right, she's in a good place. Everyone I talked to you know the people, the doctor there, and you know they're shocked because they're thinking like she. You know how long has she been this way. I said it was shocking to them because they're seeing this like fragile woman in a wheelchair who can't move, who can't get up, who can't go to the bathroom, who can't really do anything. And I'm trying to let them know that, no, like two months ago, she's fine. She lives alone, she walks, she takes she doesn't drive, but she takes the bus to get to her appointment. She has her friends like she's independent, and they were very shocked about that.

Speaker 1:

So she was supposed to be there for three weeks and I believe she was there for a little bit over that, and the thing to decide was where is she going to go? So she doesn't really love coming here to Georgia. And you know we have our lives, me and my brother. You know we have our lives, me and my brother, and so it's just it would be hard for us to give her 100% of our attention and time. And you know my other brother lives in Hawaii and then my uncle has two kids and they just you know they have their own thing going on, that they're not capable of taking care of her. So the best option was for her to go to the Dominican Republic, where she was born and raised, where she's from, where she has a ton of family. Her sister still lives there, she has nieces and nephews, it's a whole tribe of them and so, yeah, so it was a quick. She got out.

Speaker 1:

I was hoping to head down to Miami one last time. You know, a lot of things were done without really, so I don't know who decides what happens with her. Maybe her sister? I don't know. But it was very quick. Someone from the Dominican Republic came and got her and I didn't find this out until literally that she was already in the Dominican Republic. So I knew she was going. It just happened faster than I thought and I thought I would have time to go down and see her. So she's not gone. It's just harder to get to her. A flight to Miami from where I am is what? Like an hour an hour flight versus going to you know another country, and they don't live in a city, they live out in the country. So it's not the easiest of trips to make it to her, but I do plan on going.

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She was in a wheelchair for the longest. I just saw a picture literally last week of her standing with her walker, which is like huge because she wasn't able to stand up. She looks healthier in her face, in her body. She's lost some weight, she just looks really, really good. And we FaceTime and she still can't really speak, so it's more of I love you, she can say that I miss you, and she gives me lots of kisses through the phone and she lights up. They say when any of the siblings call, like me and my brothers or my cousins, she lights up. So we're doing our best to make sure that we all call her and she sees our faces, because she gets buried down is what one of my cousins said about you know what's going on over there. They're taking great care of her, but you know, I think she's sad and I think she knows that things are just going to be different and so I've had a hard time with that. I don't want to cry again. I'm having a hard time with that. It's not going to be the same.

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My grandmother has literally been there since I was born. My mom tells the story that you know I was born in 1979. They didn't do all the ultrasounds, they didn't, you know, to find out the gender and stuff. So it was always a surprise and my grandmother bought only pink things, all pink, everything, all girly stuff. She's going to be a girl. She's going to be a girl.

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My mom you know, my mom and my dad were teenagers 18 and 19, I believe when I was born. And my mom's like, why are you buying all these things? What if it's not a girl? And it's a boy? And what are we going to do? She's like, nope, nope, I know in my heart it's going to be a girl. And so my mom says she had to have a C-section with me. And so she said she told the doc I guess the doctor went out and told everybody that was in the waiting area that it's a girl. And the doctor comes back to my mom. She's like there was one lady who was screaming and jumping up and down and, just like I knew it, because she had bet my mom. My mom it's not my mom's mom, but the person that raised my mom and she never called her mom. She called her, you know, by her name. So it's someone that that you know, that raised her from the time she was, I believe, like 12 years old. And so they had a bet. She thought it was going to be a boy and my abuela thought it was going to be a girl, and so they bet like a case of beer or something like that, and the doctor's like there was just one that was just like going crazy and that was my abuela.

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And you know, since my parents were teenagers, we lived with her. My memories, my very young memories, were of her and my love for makeup. Cause my mom does not wear any makeup. Every now and then she'll put on some lipstick, but I love makeup so much. And so my mom said when I was little, she would my abuela, before she would go to work, she would put me on her little night, her little desk, her little vanity, and she put blush on herself and pretend to put blush on me, and pretend, like to put, you know, makeup on me while she was doing it to herself. And so I don't remember, I don't have those memories, but my mom said that that's probably where I get my love of makeup and always being, you know, trying to be put together, because it comes from her, and so she's just always been a big part of my life every step of the way.

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You know, when I had Kaylin, that first year I lived with her and she took care of her while I finished school, while I worked. I didn't have to worry because I knew she was in great hands With the other two kids. With every delivery she would come to the house and she would stay for a month or two and help take care of me and the babies. And we've just been just connected and she's like that with all her grandkids. But with me I just feel like this strong bond where she's just been my angel. She's been there and the thing is she's feisty, she's feisty, I'm feisty and we would butt heads. Feisty, she's feisty, I'm feisty, and we would butt heads and she would get frustrated with me and I would get frustrated with her. But that's okay. Like it was just understood that we just adore each other.

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So it's hard, you know, cause she come visit me, she come visit my brother and stay for, you know, a few months at a a time and it's just not going to happen anymore. So that's been hard, guys. So the plan is to make a trip as soon as possible. Make a trip as soon as possible, but I want to be able to bring my kids with me. So I don't just want to go on myself and hopefully see if my brother, jose, can come and we can make it a family trip. If it doesn't pan out, then it'll just be my immediate family and my mom, even though that's not her mother. They've always maintained a cordial relationship, even though, you know, my dad and her divorced, they've always maintained a very you know, respectful relationship and they call each other and talk to each other, so it's never been awkward. My grandmother is just a doll and yeah, so that's been a big change and that's been really hard to digest.

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And, guys, I've just been crying a lot the past few months. I've been crying a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot. And man, it just feels like you feel like you're doing things and you're happy and you're healthy and your spirit feels great and your mind is open and free and you feel at peace. And then things like this happen and I just have to remind myself that it's just part of life. It's just it's always going to be times of where you feel at peace, and not that I don't feel at peace, but where you know you're rocking and you're rolling and then life just starts lifing and sometimes all at the same time it's like, okay, well, maybe if I had one thing that happened for the whole year and then the next thing can happen next year. But no, everything happening with this short amount of time could be overwhelming. And you know, as humans, you're getting your feelings and you have to figure out how to sit in it. I'm learning just to sit in it, cried out, feel the feelings and keep it moving. And so I'm crying right now.

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But honestly, guys, I've been really well the past few weeks, the past month or two. So I'm crying because it's so therapeutic coming on here and actually saying things out loud, even though I have talked about these things to my husband, to my friends, my best friend, adrienne I love her dearly. We had lunch a few weeks ago and I hadn't seen her in a while, you know, and her dad passed away. That's October. So she's been dealing with that grief and all the emotions that come with that, and so we had lunch and I'm just she's like how are you? And I'm just like blah and I'm just crying and she just reminds me like our lives aren't supposed to be just perfect all the time, with no everything being happy, with no sadness or grief or fear or any of those other feelings that we don't like to feel and it's just always going to be a cycle and seasons and it is what it is and we just have to accept it guys. We have to accept it and keep living this life. And while you're in it it just seems really sad and hard and draining when you're crying all the time. But it's life. And yeah, other thing, kaylin Kaylin is doing great. She is doing great right now is doing great, she's doing great right now. She graduated in November but officially she walked in June. So we went to a ceremony, we had a party here at the house. It was lovely Around that time.

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I'm not going to go into detail because there's certain things that I don't mind talking about, but I do want to protect people and their stories and what they're going through. But man, I'm an open book, so if it was up to me, I'd just be letting it all out. But she did have an episode around that time, an incident, and it was big. And instead of me being empathetic, which I have been for the past four years, I've been trying all different techniques and I went to what I know best and it's to be my authentic self and I kind of went off in a big, big, big, big way and I'm just tired. At some point people just need to pick themselves up and figure things out. And when I see that someone's not really trying to help themselves out or they want to just wallow, but then it's affecting me. If it's affecting me, and then the siblings and my husband, it'd be different if it's only affecting that individual. But when it's affecting others and it's unnecessary, then yeah, you're going to have big problems from me.

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And so we had a big explosion and we've been good since then. I exploded, she received it. I don't know how she received it. There's a lot of crying, there's a lot of yelling on my part, a lot of crying on her part, but we've been good since then. She's stayed in our house, she is working. She is a part of a play that is going to happen this weekend, so she's been helping. She's like a stage manager, helping make sure that everything's flowing, that props and things are all ready to go for this weekend. So I'm excited to see what she's been up to and, yeah, I'm proud of her. I don't know if that explosion pushed her to do something or if she was already going to do that. I don't know, but it needed to happen and it happened and we shall see. As of right now, we have a peaceful home and I'm going to keep it that way because at some point our adult children have to realize that they can go. Just like I was able to go and I had to go figure things out, they will too. So that's where I am. You got to take ownership of your life. The other two are doing wonderfully. Your life, the other two are doing wonderfully. Corinne is ice skating fiend. She's an ice skating princess. She is doing very well, considering that she's only been doing it less than a year. It'll be a year in October and, yeah, she's loving it and she's taking it seriously.

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Khalil is taking his football seriously to the point where they see him, they know who he is. He's on varsity, he's playing. It's exciting. He went from not playing, being a part of the other just big group of football players, to actually being seen, and he's put in the work over the summer like a lot he's been working out. He's gotten so tall. Everyone that sees him oh my gosh, khalil, you're so tall. So I'm so proud of him because we had to sit down with him. It's like listen, if you need to take, if you want to take this seriously. You love football so much with every fiber of your being Can't just show up to practice and call it a day and then do nothing the rest of the day. So you got to work out, you got to put extra work in when you want to do something or be noticed. Sometimes your talents don't just carry you, and he's been an athlete since he was little. But but you know there's a lot of people that are athletes and what separates you from everybody else is what you do when no one's looking. And so he took our advice and he's been doing his thing. So we're excited for him.

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And another big change gosh, so many changes. Do you guys see why I needed some time alone? My bootcamp crew, right, the people that I talk about all the time, my girls. I started working out after Corinne was born, maybe like a year after she was born, a year and a half or so, because I had gained weight. I didn't feel good about myself. At our church that we were going to at the time, there was a pamphlet and in that pamphlet there was a little paragraph talking about if you want to work out come see us, and it was literally across the street. There's a parking lot and that's where they met every morning Well, not every morning, I think, it was like three days a week 5 am and 6 am. So Philip would go. I started first and he's like, oh, I want to join this. So he would go at 5 am and it's right down the street. So he would go and we would time it just right because the kids would still be asleep and they were little little, and then I would go at six. And so it started off just me wanting to lose weight and get healthier, and it just turned into this beautiful community where we followed her from the parking lot to one gym, to another gym, to another gym gym, to another gym. We just followed Rachel around and we've become such a sisterhood, such a tight knit group, that it's been one of the most amazing memories has been made with this group. But Rachel, you know, went back to school as an educator and she got her degree and so now she's working in the school system and she finally retired from coaching. Do you know how heartbreaking that was for all of us?

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Now, for me, I haven't been really going and working out as much as I have been in past years, so I've been taking it not as seriously this year. So for me, I kept telling everyone because everyone's like what are we going to do? Who do we go to? Do we go to the coach that's there now? Because there's a coach at this gym and then there's a coach at the previous gym that we used to go to and so she would kind of sublet the gym I don't know how it worked, but it's other people's gyms that she would go in and we would come and work out. So it's like who do we go to? And I'm like I'm retiring with Rachel, so I'm not going anywhere. And it's easier for me because I haven't really been going, but it's not that easy because, even though I wasn't going, in the back of my mind I know these women are still there, I can show up whenever and they will like be so excited to see me because I don't come as often. And no longer, guys, no longer.

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So I've been doing yoga with Shiny. Shiny's been on the show. So you guys, if you've been listening and you've heardani's voice, she's been doing yoga for a while and she's been loving it, and I said you know what? I want to go with you, let's try it out. So we've been going, I've been consistent, I've been doing Pilates and I've been walking. So it's been different, because I've always said I'm not a yoga person, I don't like yoga, I didn't like it, I don't like yoga, I didn't like it, but I'm learning to like.

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I said, a lot of people are going to that gym. The previous coach and I might sign up just to maybe show up on a Saturday, because I do love weight training, I love lifting, it's, I love it, I love it, love it, love it, love it, love it. And I'm still young enough that I can do it. And actually I shouldn't have said that, because I've seen videos of older women, like seventies, eighties, still deadlifting and push pressing. So I've always aspired to be that lady, that 80 year old that's still pushing weights. So, um, so, yeah, I think I might go down to that gym and, um, have a little talk and see if I can show up, maybe like one day a week, like Saturdays or like a Friday or something, but definitely Saturdays. And so I'm going to do that. I'll probably add that to my rotation.

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But yeah, it's, it's been a year of change and this year, honestly, has gone by really, really, really, really fast. Um, so lots of change. And this year, honestly, has gone by really, really, really, really fast. So lots of change. It feels like a reset, it feels like all right, went through this Now, like what do we do? And then, you know, after I finished crying for a few weeks and just kind of being in my home and being a hermit, I look up and I look around and I realize I'm not the only one. There's so many people in transition right now, so many changes happening to a few people that I know right now and where they are finding a reset, where they're having, you know, some of the things are happening to them that are life, life changing.

Speaker 1:

My stuff is emotional, but it's not changing my whole world completely, you know. And so for some of these women it's like life changing stuff and they're really having to reset and restart and find new beginnings. And I don't know if you're in that boat, but just know that you are not alone. And it's a lot of tears being shed for multiple people where it's like where do I go now? What do we do now? How do I restart? What's my next step? And I'm not necessarily there. I'm not putting myself in that camp because you know, like I said, it's not like my stuff has been heavy and it's been emotional, but it hasn't altered my world with my husband and my kids and stuff like that.

Speaker 1:

So, man, this year 2024, I don't know what's happening. I don't know what's happening, but that's what's been going on. That's why I just needed to just step away for a little bit. I feel re-energized, I feel excited to start talking again. I need to start doing what I said I was going to do with this podcast and I have lots of ideas and lots of things and I just have to do it and stop sitting back and stop crying about it and I just need to put myself out there because what's happening in my mind is a battle. It's a battle, man, and it's a.

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Do I stay safe and stay in my little safe bubble, or do I put myself out there and open myself to people's BS and comments and criticism and whatever? And my lovely, lovely husband, he's like, but there's so many that appreciate what you are saying and what you will be doing that you haven't even done yet. There will be so many that appreciate it. So, f the haters. Well, he didn't say that because he doesn't really cuss, but I'm saying it F the haters and keep it moving and listen. I'm a strong mama jama. I'm a strong woman. I have always been this way. But internally I have feelings too, guys, and I don't want people talking crap about me or or stuff like that. But he's right, who cares? Um, if that's what they want to do with their life is just go around talking about other people or posting or writing or commenting, then so be it, because I want to start doing videos.

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But, man, do you guys read the comments in some of these videos? I was talking to Shiny. I was talking to Shiny and I was like something as simple as a dog with a baby, because my algorithm is dogs and babies are like animals in general, cause I like monkeys they're just always so sweet or like little babies. And my stuff is very innocent because I that's the kind of stuff that comes through my, my Instagram or my reels. And I'm on TikTok now because Corinne put me on there, but yeah, it's like innocent stuff.

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And then you go to the comments, cause it's like innocent stuff. And then you go to the comments. It's like, oh, let's see what they're talking. Why is that dog so close to the baby? It's going to maul the baby's face and blah, blah, blah and I'm just like whoa, whoa, I was looking at something cute and innocent and these people are a bunch of haters, or like Shiny was like, or they'll be like well, why is that baby grabbing onto that dog's ear, like that's animal cruelty?

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So people like to turn something so beautiful into something so like grimy and gross that I'm like do I want to be a part of that world? Do I really really want to subject myself to that Cause people will turn something that it's not into something so ugly and just ugh. But I have to realize that it's not about me, it's about them and I got to keep doing what I do and try to get to where I know I can get to at this podcast. So that's what I'm going to do. I'm not going to worry about those freaking haters. And here I am. I don't know if I have haters. If I do, they're not like sending me any messages.

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It's the anticipation of it, and that's where anxiety sucks, because it hasn't even happened yet. It's stuff that's brewing in my head that hasn't even come to fruition even come to fruition. But I know how this world works and this world can be very cruel, and that's okay. I'm going to be kind, I'm going to be respectful. We can speak our truth, we can give our opinions, but we can do it in a nice way and some of these a-holes don't know how to do that. So words of wisdom from my husband just keep doing you, and that's what I'm going to do. So, guys, I think that's it. Yeah, I think that's everything that's been going on since April until now August. It's a lot.

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It's been emotional and, yeah, that's where we are, and I hope to start recording again and being on here with some friends and talking about whatever is happening in our world, because that's what this podcast is about. It's about everyday growth, everyday healing, with everyday warriors and man. Is that really happening to me now? Yeah, when I came up with this, I knew that it would be something where we can all come together as women and feel like we're not alone. And I tell you what this podcast has been very therapeutic and this is why I come here and cry. So I apologize for all the tears and the ugly cry, but I just wanted to update you all on what's been going on and why I have been MIA and why I have been MIA.

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So, as you all know, I love a good quote to end the show, and the one I want to leave you all with is when you look back on this past year, don't think of the pain you felt, think of the strength you gained and appreciate how far you've come. You've been through a lot, but you've grown a lot too. Give yourself credit for your resilience and step forward again with grace. Thank you so much for listening to Virago 24-7. If you haven't done so already, go ahead and hit that subscribe button and please give us five-star ratings. Also, don't forget to follow us on Instagram, at Virago247, and on Facebook, at Virago247, and just connect with us and share your story. We'd love to hear from you.

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